11:35 am
Keas
People tend to just say things off the top of their heads without thinking about it. I've been victim to this truth so many times myself, its just things that we are so accustomed to saying, its what we've been taught to say, its what comes naturally, its part of society's norms, but if you think about half these things, do we really mean what we say?
Take for example the following scenarios:
1. Someone accidentally opens the door the the toilet that you are in the middle of using, (most likely if you fall prey to a weak bladder and are forced to use public conveniences) and says to you "oh, i'm sorry"
Most people's natural reaction is to say " Oh, thats OK" But come on, do you really mean that? Ok, if its fine let me do it again! We know you don't really mean its ok but we say it anyway.
2. You lend someone a good deal of money, probably a few thousand dollars and they start to verbally show their gratitude.
What is the most likely thing to come out of our mouth? "Oh, its nothing, forget about it"
Ha! yeah right, forget about the fact that i lent you a couple thousand dollars that i worked so hard for, i want my money back! But hey, thats not what comes out, its always the ephemistic version of what you really want to say, one day someone is gonna take that crap seriously.
3. Why do we constnatly go through the ritual of " Hey, how are you?"
Truth is, you dont really want to know, you have no intentions of stopping to discuss how the person really is, what you do instead expect to hear is the requsit "i'm doing ok, and you? and then of course you repeat the "i'm fine" part and mosey on your way.
Its so ingrained in us, we don't even realize. We hardly ever say what we mean, what kind of society functions that way. Most of what we do on a daily basis is for appearances, to follow the status quo and not mess with the balance. Things run more smoothly that way. Try doing it a little different one day and see what happens. Especially the last one. Its tragically funny, because if somone in passing says "hey, how are you?" and you go off on a long explanation of how depressed over the death of your pet pup "twizzle" they'll be spun for a loop and would probably have no idea how to deal with the scenario. Trust me, i've tried it.
Take for example the following scenarios:
1. Someone accidentally opens the door the the toilet that you are in the middle of using, (most likely if you fall prey to a weak bladder and are forced to use public conveniences) and says to you "oh, i'm sorry"
Most people's natural reaction is to say " Oh, thats OK" But come on, do you really mean that? Ok, if its fine let me do it again! We know you don't really mean its ok but we say it anyway.
2. You lend someone a good deal of money, probably a few thousand dollars and they start to verbally show their gratitude.
What is the most likely thing to come out of our mouth? "Oh, its nothing, forget about it"
Ha! yeah right, forget about the fact that i lent you a couple thousand dollars that i worked so hard for, i want my money back! But hey, thats not what comes out, its always the ephemistic version of what you really want to say, one day someone is gonna take that crap seriously.
3. Why do we constnatly go through the ritual of " Hey, how are you?"
Truth is, you dont really want to know, you have no intentions of stopping to discuss how the person really is, what you do instead expect to hear is the requsit "i'm doing ok, and you? and then of course you repeat the "i'm fine" part and mosey on your way.
Its so ingrained in us, we don't even realize. We hardly ever say what we mean, what kind of society functions that way. Most of what we do on a daily basis is for appearances, to follow the status quo and not mess with the balance. Things run more smoothly that way. Try doing it a little different one day and see what happens. Especially the last one. Its tragically funny, because if somone in passing says "hey, how are you?" and you go off on a long explanation of how depressed over the death of your pet pup "twizzle" they'll be spun for a loop and would probably have no idea how to deal with the scenario. Trust me, i've tried it.
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2 comments:
its called being courteous ...duh
yes it is isnt it...but its so hypocritical dont u think....brain washed we all are...brain washed :)
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