8:32 pm
Keas
I'm sure, for a lot of women who are single, this question comes up ever so often in their minds. I'm also sure, that if women took the time to honestly look at themselves and try to answer this question, they could, and if they were honest with themselves, they would probably be able to 'fix the problem' of being single. How many of us women, when thinking about our single status look at the situation in terms of 'there are no good men out there' or 'men are completely unable to commit themselves to a relationship' etc. The blame is most always turned towards the men. We rarely take the time to look at ourselves and see the speck in our own eyes. Here are some things I think we should consider when trying to answer the "why am I single" question.
1. Are our expectations reasonable? Of course, high expectations are not unreasonable. I would never suggest that any woman 'settle' for less than she thinks she deserves but please stop with the fairy tale expectations, they are conjured up by people in small rooms smoking weed all day...Trust me.
2. What do we have to offer? What do you actually have to bring to the relationship? And no, spinning around in your fake Gucci shoes and saying 'all this should be enough' is not enough and if you think sex is it, well hey, sex is great but it's not something men can't get anywhere else. Seriously, what is special about you?
3. In the beginning it goes both ways don't expect that the onus is completely on the man. I see so many women sitting around with the expectation that the man should be the one who goes all out. Give the man something to hold on to, to make him know you are also interested. If you keep playing hard to get, he will leave eventually.
4. How much do you nag? OMG I used to nag and you know what? I didn't even know I was doing it. I couldn't understand why he didn't see I was trying to be helpful or asking those questions or pointing out the issues because I was trying to make things better. Believe me, men do not look at it that way. Let the small things go and sometimes just let men be men because they can't be anything else.
5. Do you even really want to be in a relationship? Ask yourself if you really want to be in a relationship? Are you ready to work at it, to deal with all that comes with a relationship or you just want a best friend to sleep with when you want? It's a lot of work and if you aren't ready to work at it, Believe me you are not ready.
I'm no expert but these are a few things I've noticed....that's my 2 cents anyways.
Posts
